Reboot Podcast Episode #79 – The Space Between Stimulus and Response – with Nicole Glaros

Memorable Quotes:

“Everybody has a plan until they’re punched in the mouth.” – Mike Tyson

“I like being pushed to the edge of what I feel like I’m capable of doing.” – Nicole Glaros

“You’re in this place where you’re not fleeing, nor are you fighting in that reflexive manner. You’re actually focused and strategic.” – Jerry Colonna

“As I sort of proceed more into my own journey of meditation, I am appreciating that more but what I’m finding is, is that the thing that is helping is that awareness of in the moment reaction to things.” – Nicole Glaros

“I don’t wanna be a slave to my reactions.” – Nicole Glaros

“Anxiety is a very particular kind of fear. It’s a fear about the future. It’s a fear of something that might happen.” – Jerry Colonna

“Anxiety will sometimes just naturally arise.” – Jerry Colonna

“Resiliency is the capacity to recover when punched in the face.” – Jerry Colonna

“What I have found is that when we enhance the capacity to widen the gap between stimulus and response…our ability to be resilient to the punches in the face enhances.” – Jerry Colonna

“When I ask ‘How are you?’ what I’m trying to do at that moment is encourage self-reflection.” – Jerry Colonna

“How am I complicit and creating the conditions I say I don’t want?” – Jerry Colonna

“We can think that the goal is to widen the gap and in a sense it is, but the real goal is to create a more resilient experience and one of the tools of that is self-awareness” – Jerry Colonna

“An open, honest question, is a question that you don’t know the answer to, it’s not leading and it’s not one with an agenda, and it’s also not a yes or no question” – Jerry Colonna

“The open honest question is really designed to really seek space for the truest answers to emerge.” – Jerry Colonna

“If we can give the space to our colleagues, to demonstrate that they are trying or where they’re lost or where they’re struggling, or what their wishes are … then the group as a whole starts to arrive at this place of … respect.” – Jerry Colonna

“Trust is not the goal, trust is the outcome. Trust is what happens when we create a safe respectful, open, honest workplace.” – Jerry Colonna

“How would it feel, what would it be like for you, if you weren’t the one in the room to have that responsibility?” What would that feel like? You know the responsibility we were talking before to say the truth or to name it.” – Jerry Colonna

“I often feel the need to say the truth because I feel like nobody else is.” – Nicole Glaros

“If other people are speaking a truth, then … I feel like that would be a gigantic relief because we’re not lying to ourselves. We are having a conversation about what’s really going on.” – Nicole Glaros

“Now there’s all sorts of complicated reasons why the person may not see what’s in front of them. It’s a defense mechanism, they’re blind or they’re caught up in something else, or its not as big an issue for them, as it is for us. “ – Jerry Colonna